I wish I could take back my post from yesterday but I can’t, so….
The last few days I have been manically preparing for this Xmas song extravaganza. Downloading songs and you tube videos, planning, plotting, figuring out the order of the songs. It has been time consuming and mentally consuming, obsessive, really.
Today I worked all day for someone else at the yoga studio and that occupied my mind in a different way, but even then, during classes “what song for the 1st? what about the 14th? Where will I put THIS song”…OY!
It started bothering me a little, well, maybe more than a little, this afternoon between shifts (I worked two…8:30-2 and then back at 5-7:15). When I got home I made some food and sat right back down at the computer, planning, plotting, worrying, stressing and feeling like I had been here before. And the thing is, I HAVE been here before. My process was very much like the process we had when we made our Xmas gift CD’s.
When I went back to work I was stressed. I knew that once I shut down the studio I could go into my 11th Step Yoga class, which is held there Sunday nights. I could NOT wait, and when I got in there it all came up. ALL the feelings, they bombarded me. By the time I got to Sevasana I was ready to allow the truth to fill me. The knowledge that a song a day, here or on FB, is not a good idea. Not this year, not yet. Maybe not EVER.
I think I wanted to prove to myself I could do it, turn the tradition on it’s head, make it something else. But it’s not. I want to TBTH, but not at my own expense. I don’t NEED to prove anything to myself…whatever for? Being so hell bent on NOT being depressed or retreating makes me want to go right into that hole. Makes me want to say “oh fuck it, things don’t change” and the FACT is that things DO change. Things are so much better it’s almost unbelievable to me.
But I walk a thin line sometimes, and that’s ok. I need to not over-extend myself, I need to not “prove” anything to myself or anyone else.
I’m not happy backing out of the…Fuck that! I AM happy backing out. I feel like a weight has been lifted, I feel great.
I just came off writing post a day a every day in November. I am tired. I don’t want or need another challenge.
I need to let it be, see where I go, allow myself to let go of expectations for myself and just be. That’s what yoga has been about, and meditation…letting go of the shoulds and have-tos, setting my priorities, being in the now. I need to concentrate on that this Holiday Season. THAT is going to make this season bright for me, THAT is going to allow me to TBTH…at least to the extent it is possible this year. I need to just BE….so far that has been working out really well. I have trusted myself and I am going to continue to do so.
So, no song a day. I’m sure there will be songs posted, or poems, or….maybe not.
No plans, especially any that bring me to a place of feeling depressed, of missing. I know the feelings will come, that’s ok. I don’t have to call them to me. I had been feeling great and then I wasn’t.
One day at a time, right? I’m back to taking this one day at a time.
Whew. I don’t know about you, but I feel better already. There is rain on the roof. I hope you hear it too. xoxoxoxo
one of Anne Lamott’ 3 great prayers.
Your plan to not have a plan is so, right on.
I love reading your posts so I am thrilled that you are not hell -bent on burning out under self induced pressure. Dare I say, I need your posts? No pressure there!
I am re-reading Anne’s book for the 3rd time. I especially like her prayer which begins, “Hey, hi, Person. Me again. The princess.”
One last thing, Michele.
When I read your posts, I feel like you are talking…to me.
Your have a wonderful writing style and I thank the stars that I found your blog.
thank you, princess!
Okay, phew!! I was gonna support you 100% and enjoy the output…but, my little brain was thinking, “Send extra strength vibes to Mich, she might need it with this assignment”
Kudos to you for recognizing it, listening to your truth and saying YES to your decision.
“I’m not happy backing out of the…Fuck that! I AM happy backing out. I feel like a weight has been lifted, I feel great.”
I feel great, too!!
The church of knowing thyself, the church of honesty, the church of letting go … even better than the church of Christmas music.
It takes guts to do the right thing, and wisdom to know what the right thing is … Proud of you. xoxo
little by little the answers will come.
Just gotta listen
I do this stuff to myself all the damn time. Love love love how you invoked one day at a time.
It always comes back to that though, right?
the moment, the now…..so simple and yet so easy to get our heads so far in front of our hearts, our knowing.
That is a most honest and mature act of self protection. Excellent choice.
Enjoy today. See what moves you tomorrow!
today i am lying on the couch, drinking tea, as it rains outside. my plan was to get my tree (i always get a little charley brown) and decorate.
however, a noter cup of tea sounds good…..xo